(Pt. 3) A Reflection of Me (I am the marrying kind, the reflection of values, attributes of a good marriage.)

A Four-Part Blog Series taken from the book "I Am The Marrying Kind" by

Maria Brinson-Sampson, J.D., C.M.

Part Three

Emotional/Spiritual Mirror

In our last post, I challenged you to do some soul-searching as you reflect on yourself. Today, I will direct you as we talk about the emotional/spiritual mirror in the reflection process.

Close your eyes. Quiet your spirit and then think about who you are in relationship to God, others, and yourself. Are you a person of integrity? Do you make promises that you keep? Do you keep your promises to God? Do you keep your promises to others? How about to yourself? How do you feel when you fail to keep your promises? You can either not make a promise (don't make a promise if you think you might not keep it) or keep your promise if you make it. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You can do it. Make a change.

How is your relationship with yourself? Are you a people pleaser? Are you wearing yourself out trying to please others when you know you need to take some time for yourself? You are looking jacked up because you haven't taken the time to go to the hair salon or the nail salon (not to mention your feet). The greatest love of all is loving yourself. You can love yourself without being self-absorbed and selfish. How is your relationship with your family and friends? Do you set boundaries? Former President Ronald Regan once said, "Good fences make good neighbors (he was referring to geographical neighbors)." Boundaries are like fences; they allow those we want in and keep out those we don't want. Boundaries also set limitations. You must set boundaries for yourself and those around you. A fulfilled, healthy, happy emotional/spiritual life requires boundaries. You are a Christian, but you are not where you want to be or where you should be on your spiritual journey. What can you do about it? Make a change.

We grow best when we give ourselves the proper nourishment. The same is true for our spiritual life. Nourish your spirit by:

• Thinking about positive things (Philippians 4:8).

• Reading the Holy Bible.

• Watching Christian T.V. or Programs.

• Listening to Gospel or Inspirational Music.

• Hanging out with other Christians.

• Having an Accountability/Prayer buddy.

Remember the Serenity prayer:  "God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference."

Which are you choosing?

• To accept the things you cannot change. Or

• The courage to change the things you can and act upon those changes.

 Comment below and share your story.

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*Your Turn*

A sincere reflection must be an honest reflection of you, your values, interests, mindset, etc.  What holds you back? What obstacles do you face? Comment below and share your story.

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