(Pt. 4) A Reflection of Me (I am the marrying kind, the reflection of values, attributes of a good marriage.)

A Four-Part Blog Series taken from the book "I Am The Marrying Kind" by

Maria Brinson-Sampson, J.D., C.M.

Part Four

Financial Mirror

In our last post, I challenged you to do some soul-searching as you reflect on yourself. Today, I will direct you as we talk about the financial mirror in the reflection process.

Pull out your wallet. Go online to your bank. Pull your credit report.

Do you like what you see? Can you say, "I am financially responsible because I pay my bills early or on time? I think about my purchases before buying; I rarely impulse shop. I have money in my savings account. I give to others. I have a budget and stay on it most of the time." Are you financially secure? Are you financially stable? If not, you can be. You just need to make a change. You can change by getting a plan and a budget (I will not give any detailed advice on the "how to" of your finances. There are many resources out there to help you if you want to be helped; if you want to make a change. I always suggest Google. Google your financial questions. Everything that you are going through someone else has gone through the same thing and written about it. Find these people and their books, tapes, or videos.

You must be financially responsible/sound just like you want your husband to be. You can't keep telling yourself that you can buy those shoes or that dress because you pay the minimum on all of your credit cards every month.

You cannot keep telling yourself that you can go on that Cruise because all of your children are grown or you don't have any children. You don't have a house either. Where is your down payment for a home or are you waiting for your husband to provide that for you? Many women want a husband because they want a "provider." They are tired of paying their bills and want a husband or man to do it for them. This is the wrong reason/attitude to have about a husband. You should be bringing your financially sound self to the marriage, not waiting for a husband to do this for you. You will attract a financially sound man to you when you become financially sound. Make a change.

Michael Jackson said in a song, "I'm looking at the man in the mirror, and I'm asking him to change his ways. Take a look at yourself and make a change."If you want a relationship that is different from the relationships you have had in the past, then you must make a change Don't keep saying, "Why do I keep attracting the same type of man into my life." I know why. The problem is you. These men are a reflection of you. He may not be the physical you, but it could be the emotional/spiritual or financial you. Take a look at yourself and make that change.

Remember the Serenity prayer:  "God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference."

Which are you choosing?

• To accept the things you cannot change. Or

• The courage to change the things you can and act upon those changes.

 Comment below and share your story.

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*Your Turn*

A sincere reflection must be an honest reflection of you, your values, interests, mindset, etc.  What holds you back? What obstacles do you face? Comment below and share your story.

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